Wow! Looking good! If your clownfish host it, you’ll have to tell me ... I’ll need your secrets... where am I going wrong? LolBlack widows expelling brownish blackish stuff is fine, that is poop. In a basket suck it with a Turkey baster. If the nem is loose in the tank you dont need that step as flow takes care of it. Deflating is normal i happens to my black widows a lot. Your nem needs a lot of light. Mine are getting 350 to 450 par just fyi.
Just curious where did you get your specimen from? You gotta be careful I see some hi end retailers selling black widows online without any webbing on the disc!!!!!! Very strange lol
I have a harem of 10, and I think 2 are a pair.... but, none are interested in my 3 anemones (I had a black widow split.) I am happy to have my 1st nem baby... the feeding made my black widow get so big and fluffy, it split. Both, are doing good! Holding out and keeping my fingers crossed... for a clownfish (or, pair) to host one!